Why Executives Burn Out: A Psychologist’s Take
At some point in a high-profile, demanding career, many executives notice a shift: They no longer feel like their best selves. They miss deadlines, forget commitments, or face stress-related health scares. Most commonly, they feel drained by the work they once loved. I see this often as a psychologist who specializes in working with executives, and I usually know what’s going on right away: burnout.
While you can’t just push through burnout with a smile and expect it to disappear, recovery is entirely within reach if you take steps to overcome it. Below, I break down what executive burnout looks like, why it shows up, and what you can do to feel like yourself again.
What Is Executive Burnout?
Executive burnout is different from just feeling tired after a busy week or needing a vacation. It happens when long-term stress chips away at your energy levels and focus. It also affects your sense of connection with work, relationships, and even yourself.
When you’re burned out, your mind and body feel depleted by the constant pressure to perform in every area of your life. For executives, leaders, and high achievers, that pressure comes from two places:
External stressors
Your work carries weight. Every choice you make affects your team, your reputation, and your business outcomes, putting you under enormous strain.
You’re absorbing everyone else’s problems. As an executive, you’re managing your stress and carrying the mental loads of your employees, senior leaders, investors, and sometimes even customers.
You operate at a non-stop pace. Back-to-back meetings, early-morning or late-night emails, and staying “on” for clients 24/7 leave no time to recover from the day.
You don’t have anyone to talk to. Leaders tend to avoid sharing their stress or uncertainty with peers, teams, or others who look up to them, often leading them to suffer in silence.
Your personal life takes a hit: When you’re drowning in work, relationships, rest, and personal hobbies can take a back seat, which further fuels burnout.
Unconscious internal drivers
You hold yourself to very high standards. Many high achievers prioritize the ambitious side that pushes for excellence over the exhausted side that needs rest. They push hard, take on more, and feel responsible for everything around them, all common themes that come up in executive burnout therapy for entrepreneurs and business owners.
Your work becomes your identity. With so much of your purpose and pride coming from your career, you might feel guilty for stepping back to take a break. I see this pattern frequently in certain groups, for instance, when helping to prevent physician burnout.
You’ve internalized expectations from early experiences: Some high achievers grew up seeking approval from perfectionist caregivers, which created a lifelong belief that you must go above and beyond to be valued and respected. Meanwhile, others push themselves to unconsciously maintain childhood roles, like being the reliable one, the problem solver, or the peacekeeper.
You have an anxious attachment style: Often stemming from early experiences, leaders who fear being replaced or disappointing others tend to take on too much, struggle to set boundaries, and deal with immense internal pressure to prove themselves.
You use work to avoid dealing with difficult emotions: Some executives stay busy to bypass feelings of grief, loneliness, inadequacy, or vulnerability. While this can offer temporary relief, ultimately, unprocessed emotions accelerate burnout.
7 Signs of Burnout in Your Leadership Life
The first step to executive burnout recovery is evaluating if what you’re facing is, in fact, burnout. For example, procrastination driven by fear of failure falls in the realm of career counseling. That’s very different from procrastination caused by burnout, which requires other interventions.
So, how can you tell if you’re facing burnout? Here are seven signs and symptoms to look for.
1. Feeling impatient
One of the first signs of burnout is experiencing what I call “micro-irritations.” This can manifest in so many ways; for instance, getting irrationally annoyed at someone’s basic question, a small delay, minor tech issues, and so on. If your fuse feels shorter with colleagues or family, it could be a sign that your nervous system is overstretched.
2. Experiencing decision fatigue
This happens when even simple choices, such as picking a font for a document, deciding what to eat for lunch, or choosing between gym classes, start weighing heavily on you. While this might simply register as indecisiveness, these small hang-ups could be your brain’s way of saying it’s overwhelmed.
3. Avoiding deep work and losing creativity
When you’re chronically tired, you might feel less sharp, strategic, or imaginative. When this happens, you avoid activities that involve focus or brainstorming and stick to more linear, straightforward tasks that you can do on autopilot.
4. Resenting professional and personal commitments
Burnout can make things you normally enjoy feel irritating or draining. Dreading meetings with people you actually like, experiencing social anxiety, or even getting irritable about attending family events might all indicate burnout.
5. Relying excessively on “coping mechanisms”
Sometimes, leaders turn to so-called “coping mechanisms” to numb the burnout and feel more like themselves. For instance, they may consume excessive coffee, snacks, nicotine, or stimulants like Adderall to push through the day.
They could also develop addictions, like relying on food (e.g., binge eating), alcohol, cannabis, benzodiazepines, and other relaxants, to “unwind” in the evenings or sleep through the night.
6. Fantasizing about escaping
This doesn’t necessarily mean you want to quit your job. It could look like Googling solo escapes or trips in the middle of the workday, browsing real estate abroad, or wanting to disappear for a while, all signs of deep exhaustion.
7. Red flags from your body
When you’re burned out, your body usually finds ways to let you know. Maybe you’re dealing with frequent shoulder, head, or neck aches that can’t be explained. Perhaps you’re suddenly struggling to sleep or sleeping too much, experiencing a lower libido, or facing gut issues.
Of course, physical symptoms can have many causes, some of which may need medical attention. But when these red flags appear alongside the mental and emotional signs I mentioned earlier, it could indicate that you’re running in overdrive.
How to Start Healing From Executive Burnout
Leaders often try to overcome burnout by powering through, taking drastic steps like quitting their jobs, or looking for escapes like vacations, alcohol, stimulants, and more. These could temporarily mask the symptoms, but they don’t address the underlying problem.
When it comes to executive burnout treatment, there’s no quick fix. That said, I’ve seen many leaders feel relief sooner than they expect by following a handful of effective and intentional strategies. I’ve listed these below.
Acknowledge the burnout
This sounds simple, but in reality, the hardest part for many executives is simply accepting that they’re dealing with executive burnout. Saying “I’m burned out” isn’t a sign of weakness or another “problem” to address. It’s data, and once you spot trends around what’s feeling heavy, you can create space for change and healing.
Create boundaries at work and at home
Setting clear boundaries in your personal and professional life is one of the best ways to give yourself the time to reset without feeling guilty.
Consider starting with small steps, like blocking 30 minutes between meetings, making your lunch break mandatory, delegating tasks, or setting aside an hour in the morning or evening for exercise, sleep, or quiet time. These boundaries are key to recovering faster.
Decompress with activities that energize you
Not all breaks are restorative. Scrolling your phone or watching random videos, for instance, could distract you, but they might not replenish you. Figure out what helps you relax, such as light movement, meditation, or yoga.
Alternatively, do more of what makes you happy, whether that’s watching stand-up comedy, meeting friends, or going for a swim. Essentially, anything that fills your cup instead of taking away from it.
Seek professional support
When burnout is ignored or not properly addressed, it can easily slide into clinical depression, anxiety, and other mental or physical health issues. And when this happens, it takes more time, effort, and even interventions like going to burnout treatment centers to come back from it.
That’s why seeing an executive burnout therapist early is invaluable. They can help you unpack the unique causes of your burnout and provide you with proven recovery strategies that stick.
Are you based in Los Angeles? Here’s some information on burnout therapy in LA.
Build long-term habits that prevent future burnout
The best recovery strategies help you establish habits that build resilience, keep you well, and prevent relapses in the long run. Otherwise, you could get caught in an endless loop, burning the candle at both ends, and then scrambling to put it out.
Therapy for Executive Burnout: A Lifeline for Leaders
The good news is that you don’t (and shouldn’t) have to face executive burnout alone. I’ve worked with many high-achieving leaders who thought “pushing through” was the fastest way to recover, only to realize that it prolonged the problem.
What they really needed was a space to reflect, slow down, and feel supported. That’s where therapy for executives makes a meaningful difference.
In my practice, I work closely with leaders who feel depleted, overwhelmed, or disconnected from themselves. Through depth therapy, we look at the patterns that keep you stuck, including early experiences, attachment styles, and the internal conflict that makes it hard to slow down. Together, we untangle these long-standing dynamics and rebuild your life in a way that feels sustainable and often, even more fulfilling than before.
If this sounds like a change you’re ready to make, you can read more about my work and reach out for a consultation.
FAQs
What is the 42% rule for burnout?
The 42% rule for burnout recommends dedicating at least 42% of your week to sleep, recovery, and activities that put you at ease, such as hobbies or connecting with others.
What are the 3 R’s of burnout?
The three R’s of burnout are Recognize, Reverse, and Resilience. This means you must first identify your burnout, then take steps to overcome it, and finally rebuild your energy to prevent it from recurring.
What exercise is best for burnout?
Gentle, restorative movements like walking, yoga, stretching, or low-intensity strength-based workouts calm your nervous system and support healing and recovery.