People Pleasing
Ditch the people-pleasing urges, step into being yourself
Through in-depth therapy, I help individuals struggling with people-pleasing tendencies live life on their own terms without guilt and worry.
You constantly feel responsible for other people’s feelings—whether it’s something fleeting, like feeling pressured to be super friendly to a barista, all the way to really tough stuff, like not telling your partner that they hurt your feelings because you’re afraid they’ll leave.
Maybe in some areas of your life, like work or school, you have no problem being assertive.
But with the people that matter most—your partner, parents, friends, or siblings—you often shrink yourself, constantly giving in to their needs, rather than feeling like there’s mutual give-and-take.
Somehow, you’re really good at knowing how other people feel—everyone else gets the benefit of your empathy.
But when it comes to your own feelings, needs, and inner voice, it can feel hard to know what’s there.
You feel frustrated that you can’t easily identify what you’re feeling, wanting, or needing, much less how to put words to it.
Fading yourself into the background to keep people around is exhausting.
So much of the time, you feel like you have to wear this mask around other people, and now it’s feeling harder and harder to take off.
But you want to feel comfortable and confident in your own skin without worrying about what people may think.
Before starting therapy, a lot of my clients felt insecure and feared that sharing their true feelings would make them selfish.
They believed that there’s only two options in life: either acquiesce to everyone else’s needs, or cut people out so that you don’t have to deal with their expectations.
It doesn’t have to be this way anymore.
You are worthy and capable of feeling clear about who you are, what you feel, and what you want without guilt, shame, or fear.
It is absolutely possible to have mutually fulfilling relationships as your real, genuine self.
If you want to shed people-pleasing and step into living as your authentic self, I’d love to help.
Together, we can work in therapy to support you as you face issues such as ⟶
Low self-esteem
Depression
Anxiety
Difficulties knowing what you feel or think
Excessively taking the blame
Loneliness
Difficulties setting boundaries
Perfectionism
Difficulties with assertiveness
Constantly worrying what others think of you
Guilt and shame
Deferring to other people’s opinions
Self doubt
Resentment
Codependent relationships
Difficulties feeling fulfilled in friendships or romance